Five of Wands

by - May 01, 2019

I am here to remind you that not everything has to be a fight.  You can let go of things when you want to or need to. 

I used to fight with my ex when he'd take the kids and let them watch rated-R movies and never make them brush their teeth.  He did it to make me mad.  It worked.  So one day, after years of being angry with him, I just stepped back and said "What if for today I choose to not be angry?"  Then when my kids came home to tell on their dad (a situation I created by always being angry with him), I didn't say anything and instead asked the kids about the fun they had instead.  I didn't call him to yell at him.  I couldn't change the situation, so I just let it go.  And I never yelled at him again.  It doesn't make what he was doing okay, but since there was no way for me to change his behavior, fighting it was only hurting myself, my children, and my husband.

This sparked a change in everyone around me: in my kids, in my hubby, in my ex...we all were happier.  Just by me choosing to let it go.  I found peace.  Not just for myself, but for everyone. 

You can choose peace, too.  You just have to shift your perspective.

Of course, there is a time for battle in our lives.  Sometimes people do things that are too awful to accept and we have to do everything in our power to stop it from happening again.  But you have to ask yourself, are the actions of the person bad enough to warrant making everyone miserable about it?  You may find that most things are either forgivable or let-go-able, even if it's only for your own peace.

Book to check out that helps with this:

The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz
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